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Post Divorce Advice For Men

post divorce advice for menDivorce for guys sucks. I don’t know how bluntly I can put it, I don’t know if it can be truly explained unless you have gone through it. It is an awful pit of anxiety, grief, depression, anger, loathing, and mind tearing insanity. So, not good right – ok, you probably got that from this rant and many other I have posted! I try to give good post divorce advice for men on this blog, but I also realise I am not an expert, and I tend to get carried away with my own agenda of male rights which can confuse the issue a bit.

These are all important things, but if you are a guy living in post divorce turmoil then I wanted to point you to another very good resources. An Ebook that is dedicated to helping men after divorce deal with the psychological and emotional side of post divorce recovery.

A couple of things before you check this out I wanted to say:

This is NOT:

  • A guide that has any hatred or vitriol against women in any way whatsoever!
  • A guide that deal with how to “win” a divorce – there is no winning in the end, your own mental health is more important.
  • A guide that is about how to seduce women after divorce – that shit is not needed and it totally detrimental for post divorce guys.

What this guide do is help you understand a few things that are essential such as:

  • The root psychological problem that causes all the turmoil.
  • Practical skills to help you deal with the stages of grief
  • How to link all problems and action back to the core psychological principles
  • How to move on and forget your ex and the painful memories to build a new life.

I like the authors style who can put things more eloquently than I can, the post divorce advice for men in this guide is spot on and worth looking at. It may not be everyone’s cup of tea I understand, but i do think it will help most guys having trouble after a divorce. So if you want to know more, click below to check it out..

Post Divorce Advice For Men


Rebuilding Life After Divorce For Guys

rebuilding life after divorce for menIn my previous post I mentioned that one way out of depression was to begin to rebuild your life. Rebuilding life after divorce for guys is something that seems obvious, but I think it needs some qualification before we go into it.

Rebuilding

This is a loaded word and I use it very sparingly because it contains a connotation I don’t like for men, post-divorce. When we rebuild something, some people like to rebuild it just the way it was. A historic building falling into ruin is often rebuilt in exactly the same style because we value what it looked like, and we want to keep that piece of history. Men do the same thing when rebuilding their life sometimes, they try to mimic what it was to be themselves not long ago when they were married. This means they often rebuild it with the same flaws, and also tend to create a prison of regret and bad memories while doing it.

Some guys tend to attempt to get their ex back which rarely ever works. Some guys try to seduce s woman as close to their ex wife as possible. Some guys just try living the same way, in as many ways as they can.

This is not rebuilding the RIGHT way. This is the WRONG way.

Rebuilding properly mean building something, but that thing must be a new design, a new way. You are RE-building your life, but it should not mirror what it once ways. It must be something that is new and reflects who you are now, it must give you direction and purpose, it must fulfil you and give you a place in the world.

This ties into your ego and a bunch of other psychological stuff inside your head. Having a strong sense of self, and self respect is what it is all about you see, and building a new life helps with this, and having self respect will help you build it too. They go hand in hand.